Online Trauma & Anxiety Therapy in Northern Virginia
For high-achieving adults navigating childhood trauma, family guilt, and the pressure to hold it together.
Serving Fairfax, Arlington, Alexandria & Surrounding Areas
Virtual Therapy Across Virginia & Maryland
Blooming Days Therapy is a private pay practice, with superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement.
Maybe your anxiety looks like this…
You hang up the phone with your parent… and immediately replay everything you said.
You agree to something you don’t want to do — then feel resentful, but also guilty for feeling resentful.
You worry that setting boundaries makes you “too American.”
You rehearse conversations in your head before they happen.
And rehearse them again afterward.
At work, you’re decisive and competent.
At home, you’re not sure you’re allowed to want what you want.
You feel responsible for keeping the peace.
For not disappointing anyone.
For being “grateful.”
When conflict starts, you either shut down completely…
or over-explain yourself until you’re exhausted.
You call it stress. Or anxiety.
But it feels more like pressure you can’t turn off.
Many of the adults I work with grew up in homes where emotions weren’t prioritized, boundaries felt disrespectful, or success mattered more than how you felt. On the outside, you may look capable and responsible. Inside, you’re exhausted from overthinking, shutting down, or feeling guilty for wanting something different.
Anxiety may be the word you use. But often, it’s connected to early experiences — family expectations, cultural pressure, or roles you learned to play long before you had a choice.
Therapy offers space to untangle those patterns and build self-trust without rejecting your culture, your faith, or your family.
Understanding where these patterns began is only the first step.
How Therapy Helps
Therapy with me tends to move through three phases.
1. Awareness Without Blame
We start by slowing things down.
We identify the patterns that show up in real time — the shutdown, the over-explaining, the guilt that follows even small acts of self-assertion.
We explore where those patterns were learned, not to criticize your family or culture, but to understand what your nervous system adapted to.
Insight matters — but we don’t stop there.
2. Practicing Something Different
As safety builds, we begin experimenting with new responses.
Clearer communication.
Healthier boundaries.
Staying present in conflict instead of shutting down.
Making decisions without spiraling afterward.
This is where tools from CBT and DBT come in — not as rigid formulas, but as practical ways to interrupt old cycles.
You don’t just talk about change. You practice it.
3. Integration & Self-Trust
Over time, something shifts.
You become less reactive.
Less guilt-driven.
Less defined by what you “should” be doing.
You begin making choices from a steadier place — one that honors where you came from, but isn’t controlled by it.
The goal isn’t perfection.
It’s balance.
Flexibility.
A quieter nervous system.
Specialized Trauma & Anxiety Therapy in Northern Virginia
I specialize in helping high-achieving adults untangle the long-term effects of childhood emotional trauma, cultural pressure, and chronic anxiety.
Anxiety & Perfectionism Therapy
For overthinking, chronic stress, guilt, and the pressure to always “get it right.”
Childhood Trauma Therapy for Adults
Support for emotional neglect, high expectations, and family dynamics that continue to shape your relationships and self-worth.
Cultural Identity & Family Boundaries
For adults navigating loyalty, bicultural tension, faith-based expectations, and the complexity of honoring family while building independence.
Meet Anabelle | Online Trauma Therapist in Fairfax, Virginia
I’m Anabelle, a licensed therapist providing online therapy across Virginia and Maryland.
I specialize in working with high-achieving adults navigating childhood emotional trauma, family pressure, and anxiety rooted in early responsibility. Many of my clients come from multicultural, immigrant, or faith-centered families and are looking for a space where they don’t have to explain every nuance of that experience.
My style is calm, direct, and collaborative. We build understanding first — then we work toward practical, sustainable change.
If you’re looking for therapy that respects your background while helping you grow beyond old patterns, you’re in the right place.
Services Provided in English & Korean
Some experiences cannot be fully expressed in translation.
If you grew up navigating Korean and American expectations, you may notice that certain emotions — guilt, obligation, resentment, loyalty — feel different depending on the language you’re speaking.
Therapy is available in both English and Korean, allowing us to work in the language that feels most natural to you.
You deserve a space where nothing important gets lost in translation.
You don’t have to keep functioning at this level of pressure.
If you’re ready to approach this differently, we can begin.
Online Trauma & Anxiety Therapy in Northern Virginia
Serving Virginia & Maryland via Telehealth